How to Hire the Most Strategic Matchmaker San Francisco (Or Your City) Has to Offer

When you decide to work with a matchmaker, you’ve taken the first step towards finding love. It's not impossible to find your next relationship on your own, but it certainly can be challenging in a big city.

That’s why seeking out a skilled matchmaker in the San Francisco Bay Area (or your city) is a great move. In today’s fast-paced and digital-driven world, meeting professional singles with the help of matchmaking is like driving in the fast lane to your destination.

At Shannon’s Circle, we provide the most discreet, high-end, and exclusive matchmaking services in the Bay Area. We’ve compiled this ultimate guide to finding and hiring the perfect matchmaker for you. In just a few short minutes, you’ll know how to proceed confidently and what to expect.

How Do I Find a Matchmaker?

The easiest way to find a matchmaker is by searching “exclusive matchmaker” or “executive matchmaker” followed by your city, like “executive matchmaker San Francisco”.  It’s important to seek out somebody who works with and attracts the type of singles you want to meet. For instance, at Shannon’s Circle we focus on intellectually curious and kind singles who typically have great careers and a fulfilling life yet are just missing that special someone.

There are a few other ways to find a great matchmaker, though. The best ones host social events or even speak at events designed to improve your dating skills, for example. Attending an event is a great way to get familiar with a matchmaker before you sign up for anything.

Don’t forget the value of a referral from someone you trust, either. Try asking your friends or family if they’ve ever worked with a matchmaker or know of someone reputable. Just remember to seek advice from people whose views on love are similar to yours. Your friend that only wants hook-ups won’t have a great recommendation for you.

The last thing to keep in mind is that you really need to know what you want before you start this process. Modern psychology data suggests the best time to discover this is when you’re between relationships. (1)

Today’s matchmakers tend to work with specific demographics and personality types, so you’ll find the best fit when you know what’s most important to you and what you value.

What to Expect

In certain communities, matchmakers have been an integral part of society for centuries. Approximately 60% of current marriages worldwide were arranged by a matchmaker, though Americans have only warmed up to the idea in recent decades. (2)

Today’s modern matchmakers each use their own unique approach and strategy to help their clients find love. That said, there is a general process you can expect to follow.

First, you’ll go through a qualification process. The best matchmakers carefully curate their exclusive networks of singles - and their clients - and that includes you. Typically this involves filling out a form on their site about yourself, but the matchmaker might also set up a meeting to learn more about you if you’re serious about matchmaking and it is a good fit.

Once it’s confirmed that you’re a good fit, a matchmaker will propose working together. The investment for a matchmaking engagement can vary, yet typically it’s in the 5-figure range.  If you decide to partner on your love quest,  you’ll work with your matchmaker to get clearer on who you are seeking. You two will discuss what you really want from your next relationship. Most services specialize in helping you start a rewarding long-term relationship, so casual daters are generally turned away.

Throughout this introduction process, your matchmaker will dig deep into your personal information. You’ll already have shared basic info like your name, location, age, and a recent photo. This deep dive will focus on things like your upbringing, your career goals, your values, and other details that seriously impact your compatibility with a potential partner.

Finally, you’ll start to meet matches! Every matchmaker handles this differently. Some services promise to set you up on a specific number of dates. Here at Shannon’s Circle, we focus more on finding truly great quality matches for you and less on throwing dates at you to just meet a threshold. Our clients value their time, and we vet all first date candidates to make sure it is worth their time.

As you meet people, you’ll share feedback with your matchmaker so they can find even better potential partners. These dates may also reveal some dating skill opportunities, blindspots, or bad habits that  you weren’t even aware of that you need to work on.  

At Shannon’s Circle, we provide date coaching to help you polish any rough edges. We want all our clients to have the option of going on a second date.  Your matchmaker may include this in their base package or charge a premium, depending on who you choose.

Ideally, you’ll meet someone who lights up your life sooner rather than later. Every matchmaker has their own process for ending their services once you start a relationship. It’s wise to find out early on how your matchmaker handles this transition with you.

Matchmaker Pricing

When you Google “matchmaker San Francisco” (or whichever city you’re in) you have to be prepared to invest. Depending on the quality of your matchmaker, you can expect to pay on average between $5,000 to $50,000 annually. (4)

If that range is too broad for you, simply determine a budget or range you’re comfortable with. When you know what you’re willing to pay, it’s much easier to narrow down your options.

Keep in mind that most matchmaking services offer tiers or packages at different price points. Each package includes certain services and benefits. Think about what you struggle with the most and what would be most helpful in order to choose the best one for you.

Learn More About Our Signature Process

Our founder Shannon is proud to be the most strategic and well-connected matchmaker San Francisco singles have come to rely on. Her Harvard MBA and successful business career in the San Francisco Bay Area have uniquely positioned her to help busy executives like you find love.

Read on to learn more about our signature process here at Shannon’s Circle.

Exclusive Matchmaking in San Francisco

According to our happy clients, one of the biggest reasons people sign up for matchmaking is they’re sick of wasting time with dating apps and online dating. Even if you frequent a few different dating sites or apps, you’ll often invest a lot of time and get a very low return.

When you know what you want but you just can’t find it, a matchmaker is the perfect solution. The networks Shannon taps into include Ivy League alumni organizations, successful entrepreneurs, skilled attorneys, healthcare leaders, and C-level executives. These are people you are not likely to meet in real life or on a dating app.

You see, unlike a dating app, Shannon doesn’t let just anybody into her Circle. She screens not just her clients, but every single person in her database. Best of all, Shannon personally meets every person she sets you up with prior to your date. Shannon jokes “I go on the first date for my clients”

Basically, joining Shannon’s Circle puts you into a new stratosphere of the dating scene. You can look forward to dates that are truly rewarding and hopefully meet “the one”!

Online Dating Concierge

Shannon has spoken at length to publications like Forbes about the benefits of online dating. It’s like putting a bunch of fishing lines into a body of water, except much easier. All you have to do is set the line—your dating profile—and see who takes the hook.

But this can also be overwhelming and disappointing for many people. When you work with Shannon’s Circle, they’ll help you master the world of dating apps and online dating. They’ll coach you on every detail of your profile, including your photo.

Once you start talking to matches, they’ll help you pen email exchanges - or even manage your dating app accounts for you!  You can turn over “finding the needle in the haystack” to Shannon’s team so you don’t have to spend hours each week swiping and chatting with date potentials that go nowhere.

Her ultimate goal is making sure the time you spend on dating sites and apps is a good investment. You’ll also work together to develop a search strategy and make sure you’re signed up on the best dating apps for finding your special someone.

Dating Advice and Coaching

Just like an executive coach, Shannon will help you develop strategies, showcase yourself, and stay on-track as you date. Whether you need help identifying exactly what you really want in a partner or need help improving your dating skills, she’ll work with you every step of the way.

At Shannon’s Circle, this means so much more than just giving you tips. Shannon may recommend that you try a mock date, which helps you clearly see the impression you make on dates and strengthen your dating skills.

Shannon also gets feedback from every match you meet. This unbiased feedback often uncovers blindspots and can be an invaluable insight into how potential partners see you. When you work with Shannon, she’ll coach you or recommend services depending on your individual needs.

Ready to Start Your Own Love Story?

If you’re looking for the most exclusive and strategic matchmaker San Francisco has to offer, you’ve come to the right place. Our founder Shannon works individually with every single client on their quest to find love.

Having lived and worked in the Bay Area for over 20 years, Shannon has her finger on the pulse of the dating world. She is intimately familiar with the unique struggles professional singles like you face every day. That’s why she founded Shannon’s Circle—because a successful career and rewarding personal life shouldn’t stop you from finding that special someone.

You deserve to start the first chapter of your very own love story. Floundering in a sea of dating apps isn’t a requirement for finding a great partner. Your next relationship is out there right now, waiting for you to find them. If you’re ready to put an expert to work on your love life, just click “Get Started” at the top of this page. 

References:

1. American Psychological Association, Speaking of Psychology: Using Your Mind to Find Love

https://www.apa.org/news/podcasts/speaking-of-psychology/mind-love

2. How Stuff Works, How Matchmakers Work

https://people.howstuffworks.com/matchmaker.htm

3. Stanford Medicine, Come Together: How Social Support Aids Physical Health

https://stanmed.stanford.edu/2016spring/come-together.html

4. Consumer Affairs, Matchmaking Services

https://www.consumeraffairs.com/dating_services/matchmaker/